By the time I was 28, I was managing 260 employees (and 15 offices) for Bank of America. Everyone thought I was a professional superstar, commenting on how much I’d accomplished at a young age. I became obsessed with leadership and eventually built a leadership framework for engaging teams and delivering breakthrough results, called 7 V.I.R.T.U.E.S. of Leadership. In 2023, 7 V.I.R.T.U.E.S. became a book and it’s curriculum that I now teach. At 36, I became the COO of SkyOne Federal Credit Union, a billion-dollar institution.

A few years later, I did something very scary: I resigned from my COO role so I could start my own coaching and consulting business. Why? Because as much as I loved talking about leadership and employee engagement, I wanted to talk about something much more personal to me: PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION.

I was freaking TERRIFIED. I’d spent 21 years in corporate America, getting a paycheck from someone else. I had a great relationship with my boss, the company’s CEO, who’d told me he thought I was well-suited to become a CEO, myself. I loved my colleagues, especially my own team, and liked the work. The paycheck was great.

Leaving that job was SCARY.

I grew up with a LOT of childhood trauma. I was raised by a narcissist and spent my childhood exposed to mental illness and untreated personality disorders. Anxiety, fear, and explosive anger were part of daily life. I was raised to be a people-pleaser, a perfectionist, and a producer. At an early age, I developed my own set of fears and insecurities, and those haunted me into adulthood. I spent years being unable to emotionally regulate myself (because I hadn’t been taught). Nothing my partners ever did was good enough for me because nothing I’d done was ever good enough for my mother. I was an anxious overachiever and constantly worried about what others thought or what I looked like.

Throughout much of my life, I’d felt I was destined for something different than the norm. I frequently daydreamed about striking out on my own and building a different kind of life; one that felt more like “me”. But, I was too afraid. I’d hear my mother’s voice in my head, encouraging me to “play it safe” or perform, and fear of failure held me back from betting on myself, taking a total leap of faith, and following my heart.

So, I stayed and worked in corporate America for 21 years, instead of starting my own shop to finally coach, consult, and write those books I’d been dreaming about for a decade.

Figuring out what we REALLY want and taking the steps to pursue it is SCARY and HARD….especially if you don’t know anyone who’s done anything like that, or don’t have the support of your parent, partner, or best friend. But your life is too precious and too valuable to NOT take the chance and go do something EPIC.

Finding the courage to reinvent ourselves and create the life we REALLY want all starts with key things like our belief-system, our mindset, and how we talk to ourselves. Then, it’s about the plans we make and how well we execute against those plans. It’s all about how clear we’re willing to get about our biggest, most audacious goals, and then about holding ourselves accountable DO THE WORK.

It’s a lot easier with the right partner to help you.

Since becoming a consultant and coach, I’ve noticed something:

If you’re not living your very best life, chances are, you KNOW IT. Whether conscious or not, most of us can sense when we’re off track. When we’re not:

• Fulfilling or maximizing our full potential
• Living in accordance with our true values
• Chasing our dreams- whatever we know we were put on earth to do
• Establishing a loving, trusting, soulful connection with our partner
• Doing the things that would make us MOST happy and successful

You wouldn’t expect it, but for most, doing many of these things is UNCOMFORTABLE

Building greatness (in EVERY part of our lives) is HARD FREAKING WORK. Being a person that does the things above requires us to:

• Get outside our COMFORT ZONES
• Make BIG changes
• BREAK HABITS (you know, familiar ones, that we ENJOY)
• Become more HUMBLE and SELF-AWARE
• Focus on what more WE can do (not what more OTHERS can do)
• Overcome the FEAR to do these things by being BRAVE and COURAGEOUS

Your biggest dreams won’t just GO AWAY. They’ll always be there, in the back of your mind.

There’s a lot of reasons we stay stuck. Do any of these apply to you?

You were raised as a perfectionist and are afraid to fail. You ask: “What if it doesn’t work out?”

You were raised as a people-pleaser and afraid of what others think. You, “What will they think?”

You haven’t created a clear vision of what you want out of life. You ask “Where do I start?”

You continually say you’ll do it later. You ask: “What’s the rush? Why now?”

Because you don’t have the answers, you do NOTHING. You stay at the lackluster job, you don’t register for the event, you WAIT. You do the right THINGS so you don’t live the right LIFE.

If you keep living this way, you’ll REGRET it. With the right support and guidance, you can do ANYTHING you want. You can start building a better life TODAY.

If you want different results in some area of your life, reach out. Your first session is FREE, and we’ll decide there if I’m the right coach for YOU. Click my calendar link and grab a spot.

In the meantime, if you’d like to know more, grab one of my books!

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